I can’t speak for all introverts, of course, but it seems we are more likely to want minimal small talk.
My mom was an extrovert, a real talker, and could drum up a conversation about anything and everything. She’d start with one simple subject and turn it into something elaborate. My dad and I would be silent and amazed at how a person could speak for 15 minutes about their great new find from Kmart (the store that existed before Walmart 🙂). And then she’d jump from topic to topic, with the greatest of ease. She’d weave all kinds of topics, keeping them flowing and interesting somehow.
Watching a show like “American Idol” or “So You Think You Can Dance” (are these still on? I don’t watch much TV anymore. 😃), I’ve been fascinated by how many words the judges came up with to give feedback to the contestants! How can a judge say a contestant did a good job in 1000 plus words (instead of “great job”)?!
As an introvert, we seem to veer towards going deep, quickly. Starting with the weather is ok but hopefully the next topic will be something we’ve spent lots of time studying.
Like my dad used to flourish when the words “flowers” or “garden” were mentioned, and he could tell you how much phosphorus and nitrogen was needed in the soil 😄.
Or say the word “animal” and be prepared to hear my current studies about zoology, ethology, and all my wildlife stories.
If you put 2 introverts together and give them a topic they like to discuss, you might not see them for days. 🤩
Share your thoughts, everybody! Do you like small talk? May God bless your week!
P.S. Heads up, I will be reading all comments but may not be commenting on your comments. We’re quite busy in the summer, and I’ve pre-written some of my upcoming blogs. I hope a “like” is ok for now, even though validation on social media is a good thing. 👍
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I really don’t like small talk. Find it so hard to drum up something to talk about. It does fascinate me how people like your mom can hold a conversation like that. But yes, if we do like a topic we can talk quite a bit about it.
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One of my favorite topics is God. You too?
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I could probably sit and talk to your mother about all the things. I can sit and enjoy the silence at times too, but 9 times out of 10 if there is quiet all around my mind is still going a mile a minute. Hmmmm….I guess it is hard for me to be truly silent.
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Good point. That’s true about my mind, too! I sit quietly and stare out the window, allowing my mind to go all over the place until it tires itself out. Like an unruly kid. 🙃 Then silence happens. Sometimes I journal when I’m into heavy mind jumble. Thanks for stopping!
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I remember shopping at K-Marts, and loved the “blue light special!”They’d announce a special over the loud speaker, and you’d look around the store for the cart with the blue light flashing on it to go find your bargain.
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Exactly! A true delight! Do you remember anything you bought there? I loved to teach and would use my allowance to buy student books like math or English, teachers editions. They had a section for how to teach the curriculum, plus the answer key. At age 6 and up, I’d teach my dolls with my book and blackboard! .67 cents.
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Your dolls are probably better educated than some kids nowadays! I don’t recall anything specifically. Usually it was nothing I needed but was thrilled to get a bargain!
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Oh my goodness! I can so relate to this. I love deeper conversations. I can manage small talk, but I tire of it quickly! 😄 Thanks for your post!
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Yey, another introvert! Thank you for sharing Amber!
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Being an introvert also, I don’t like small talk and I’m not good at it. In social situations, I tend to let my wife the extrovert do most of the talking for both of us.
However, like you I also have my quirky favorite topics that I can expound upon at length, but of course few share my interests.
As you mention, I am amazed at incessant talkers who can go on forever about the most mundane topics. They wrongly assume everyone is interested in the minute details of their weekend, etc. The woman who lived across the street from us for 22 years was like that as well as a woman I worked next to for three years.
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See my comment below meant for you Tom.
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Hi Tom, as you painted a visual, I thought about a previous boss. He told me that he’d watch a particular subordinate’s nose or cheeks (I forget now) when they were in his office talking and amusing himself with the color. I’m assuming the subordinate would be attempting to discuss something important to them, and the boss wasn’t listening, waiting for the subordinate to get mad so he could see a color change. He was like that. Thank God most people listen somewhat. 🤪 Thanks for sharing!
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Sometimes I feel unfriendly because I’d rather sit and hear others talk (i.e. a good listener) and just contribute prompt words to keep them going! The more someone else carries a conversation, the less I have to! 🙂
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I hear you! “Listening” is another topic. 😀 Thank you for sharing 🙏
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You’re welcome, Marla. Thanks for starting the conversation. 😁
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I can relate to this so much… As a fellow introvert and believer, I’ve found that meaningful, Spirit-led conversations are far more refreshing than small talk. It’s in those deeper moments that God often speaks the loudest.
God Bless you, today and always…
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So true! Give me God, not the latest hairstyle!
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